Look, guys, we get it.
Nobody wants to be a two-pump chump.
Yes, premature ejaculation sucks.
I’m sure everyone’s got a horror story of a time when their lil fella was a bit trigger-happy or didn’t even want to step up to the plate (PE vs erectile dysfunction are different nightmares but we’ll get Into that scenario another time).
But it happens.
In fact, a lot of men experience premature ejaculation issues.
Let me tell you, there’s a free, natural way to treat premature ejaculation (PE) –and it works.
If you are a man struggling with premature ejaculation, then try the squeeze technique. It’s one of the oldest tricks in the book to improve your sexual stamina, sex life, and control ejaculation.
Let’s dive into what it is.
Introducing: The Squeeze Technique
The squeeze technique for premature ejaculation works by manually holding off and preventing ejaculation from leaving the body.
Sex therapists often recommend the squeeze technique as just one of the many methods applied for ejaculatory control. It is a simple, easy-to-learn process that any man can do with a little bit of practice.
The exercise was developed by Masters and Johnson, a research team made up of William H. Masters and Virginia E. Johnson. These two changed how many Americans thought about sex and led the modern sex therapy movement.
These two released multiple scientific papers on human sexual response, diagnosis, and treatment of sexual disorders and dysfunctions from 1957 until 1990 (yes, they were the Batman and Superman of helping people solve sexual problems).
The two published the Squeeze Method in their book in the 1970s called Human Sexual Inadequacy. Since then, the squeeze method has been a staple method for delaying ejaculation.
The Squeeze Method is very similar to the Start-Stop Method which involves stimulating the penis until just before orgasm and then stopping until the urge or sensation to ejaculate goes away.
The squeeze technique requires you to get near the point of climax and then hold off the climax by holding the tip of the penis until the sensation or feeling stops.
Does the squeeze technique work?
Listen, the squeeze method is an effective way to treat premature ejaculation.
It simply works. In fact, the National Library Of Medicine recommends the squeeze technique is an effective (and free) way to treat premature ejaculation problems.
Here’s how to do it.
The bulbospongiosus muscle is one of several muscles in your pelvis involved with erection and ejaculation.
In men, it surrounds the bulb (the enlarged inner end part that surrounds the urethra) of the penis and can be contracted to expel the last drops of urine or semen.
The squeeze technique uses the bulbospongiosus reflex in which sustained pressure is applied to the glans of the penis to contract the Bulobospongiosus muscle or stop the ejaculatory reflex.
How To Delay Ejaculation With The Pause-Squeeze Technique
We’ll go over how to perform the squeeze technique to delay ejaculation. A little bit of discipline and timing are required not to go too far or stroke until orgasm. You can do this exercise with a partner or by yourself. Let’s get started.
Step-By-Step For How To Use The Squeeze Technique
This free method of addressing your PE problems is easy to learn and does not require any special equipment or tools. Just be sure to squeeze in the correct position and use the right pressure. The squeeze technique works best and is most effective if you follow these steps:
Step 1
Begin masturbating or sexual activity. Have your partner, or you play with you to get stimulated. You’ll stimulate your penis until just before orgasm. This will require self-control as you get aroused but stick to it. As you get closer to the climax, tip-toe to step 2.
Step 2
If you are working with a partner, it is best to use a signal or perhaps a gesture to show you are close to climaxing. Moments before you ejaculate, have you or your partner apply the tiniest bit of pressure on the tip of the penis to decrease the level of arousal.
We’ll do a quick penis anatomy lesson.
Look at the image above and locate where the head of the penis meets the shaft. This area of the penis is called the frenulum. This is the area we’ll be using the stop-start technique.
This can be done by putting your index finger on the back side of the penis where the head joins the shaft (areas 2,3 and 4), placing your thumb on the other side of the penis, and then gently squeezing. Just how much pressure you put is up to you. Don’t do anything too hard or uncomfortable. It may be a good idea to give yourself a few light squeezes to practice.
If you are doing this with your partner, show them where to squeeze and allow them to practice. It can decrease sexual satisfaction if they grab the wrong area or grab on too tight.
Squeeze for 5 seconds.
By temporarily stopping sex and squeezing the penis at just the right time, it is possible to close off the urethra or tip of the penis, prevent ejaculation and continue intercourse.
Step 3
After that, you wait for about 30 seconds and then repeat the steps several times in a row. Continue resuming stimulation. Repeat until you feel it’s the right time to finally orgasm.
Incorporate this into your regular sexual routine. As a result, you can enjoy sex for a longer period before experiencing orgasm.
Here’s a video that can show you how it is done.
Is the Squeeze Technique Healthy?
Since you are manually preventing ejaculation, you have to be careful with how much pressure you use. Squeezing the penis a little too hard can cause a minor injury (and possibly sexual dysfunction).
If that injury penetrates or erodes the mucus membrane, you may find urinating produces a mild stinging sensation for a few hours afterward. When you use the squeeze technique approach–be cautious, fellas.
Other Treatments To Help Men Treat Premature Ejaculation
Now that we’ve discussed the squeeze technique as an effective option for dealing with ED, let’s talk about some other tricks and tools you can use in your arsenal to combat rapid climax.
We’ll go over alternative options to prevent premature ejaculation and treat it.
Let’s first talk about sex therapy.
Sex Therapy
In sex therapy, you’ll get down to the root of the problem. The psychological mess or baggage that causes premature ejaculation. You see, underlying stress from work or anxieties about the relationship could affect sexual function. So, you’ll work through self-doubt, overthinking, reduce performance anxiety, and different conflicts in the relationship.
Sex therapists help partners understand what works for each partner’s arousal preferences and sexual needs. They will improve communication and discuss how they can cooperate to have an amazing and satisfying sexual experience.
Kegel Exercises (or pelvic floor exercises)
Kegel exercises have been shown to increase the time until ejaculation. Studies show this sexual performance exercise could delay orgasm by one or two minutes longer.
When people hear the words “pelvic floor muscles” they think only females have them.
Actually, men have them too. The pelvic floor muscles in males support their bladder and bowel movements. The pelvic floor is made up of one in the front, one at each ischial tuberosity (sitting bone) in the back, and one from the coccyx (tailbone).
Performing kegel exercises can help ejaculatory control and strengthen your pelvic floor muscles to help you build longer sexual stamina.
Longer Foreplay
Sex is more than just penetration. Foreplay can increase the sexual experience in both time and pleasure. Practice ‘preheating the oven’ or getting her in the mood. Teasing each other and slowing down the sexual arousal will only make the sexual experience more fun and extend intercourse.
With a sexual partner, practice elongating your foreplay. Medical experts have said that men who battle PE can work through the condition by engaging in foreplay.
Condoms
Can condoms really help you last longer? With some guys, yes!
Using a condom can decrease sensation and make you last longer in bed. There are actually condoms designed to help you last longer or delay ejaculation. These condoms lower sexual stimulation by using a much thicker layer of latex.
Some even come with a numbing agent near the surface of the penis to reduce sexual stimulation and prolong performance.
Prescription medications
When you feel like you’ve thrown everything but the kitchen sink for handling your ED, time to bring out the big guns. Maybe you need more than just over-the-counter products. There are plenty of prescription medications to help PE and gain greater control of your ejaculation time. The main classes of oral medications available by prescription for premature ejaculation are antidepressants, especially SSRIs, and PDE5 inhibitors. These medications are prescribed as ‘off-label’ premature ejaculation pills but they are really effective.
Pre-applied Numbing Gel And Creams
Plenty of numbing creams and gels are available containing both lidocaine and prilocaine (EMLA) to try and elongate ejaculation time. These numbing agents help you lower stimulation and have more ejaculatory control. Numbing creams and gels typically last up to 1 hour and 30 minutes. It begins working 30 minutes after application and can stay in place for up to an hour. After you take it off, the region will continue to be numb for an hour.
Consult a Premature Ejaculation Doctor For Solutions
Ejaculation that occurs too soon or too early typically has both emotional and physical issues.
We always recommend you speak with your doctor about premature ejaculation issues and ask for medical advice. A specialist, like a urologist, may take a closer examination of your body to figure out the best treatment if you have frequently prematurely ejaculated. A urologist or specialist will examine your body, ask about past sexual experiences and give you very personalized treatment/recommendations.
If you have both premature ejaculation and difficulty getting/ keeping an erection, your healthcare provider might order blood tests. The tests may check your hormone and testosterone levels.
Check out our article on who to see for premature ejaculation if you aren’t sure what your options are
I would also suggest looking at the other options above. There are several different desensitizing sprays, gels, condoms, and pills to help with PE, that are available to try.
