Imagine this scenario: you’re in the heat of the moment, and you got a good thing going…
But as soon as you start… you feel that telltale tingle. Your heart starts racing, and you hit the panic button. “no, no, no, no”…
Moments later, you realize that you’ve already hit the point of no return. You try to hold on, to squeeze just a little longer, but it’s too late. Premature ejaculation has struck again.
This frustrating and often embarrassing problem can cause feelings of shame and disappointment, not just for you, but for your partner as well. But it doesn’t have to be this way. There are techniques and strategies that you can use to improve your ejaculatory control and make sex a more enjoyable and satisfying experience for both you and your sexual partner.
So let’s take a deep breath and the team at ShagLonger will help you dive into the world of holding back premature ejaculation.
Know the enemy: an introduction to premature ejaculation
While it is normal for men to experience some level of variability in ejaculatory timing, premature ejaculation is defined as ejaculating within one to two minutes of penetration. Lasting only one minute or orgasming after 2 minutes is too early for enjoyable sex. It can be a distressing problem that impacts both physical and emotional well-being and can really hurt your sex life.
Premature ejaculation can be classified as either primary or secondary.
Primary premature ejaculation is defined as premature ejaculation that has always been present and has never been successfully treated. This type of premature ejaculation is often thought to be due to psychological or emotional factors, such as anxiety, stress, or relationship issues.
Secondary premature ejaculation, on the other hand, is defined as premature ejaculation that has developed after a period of normal sexual function. This type of premature ejaculation can be caused by physical or medical conditions, such as hormonal imbalances, nerve damage, or the use of certain medications. Psychological or emotional factors, such as depression, anxiety, or stress can also cause it.
However, it is a treatable condition, and there are steps that men can take to physically as well as mentally improve their ejaculatory control and enhance their sexual experiences.
It is a problem that plagues many men and can be downright embarrassing. It can cause feelings of inadequacy and mess with your self-esteem, not to mention the strain PE can put on your sexual relationships.
The impact of stress and anxiety on premature ejaculation
Stress and anxiety can be major roadblocks when it comes to lasting in bed. When we’re stressed out, our bodies go into survival mode, which can cause physical changes like an increased heart rate and heightened sensitivity.
These changes can make it tough to control when you ejaculate, and can even lead to premature ejaculation in the first place. On top of that, worrying about your sexual performance or feeling self-conscious about your body can create a vicious cycle. You get anxious, which leads to more sensitivity, which leads to even more anxiety.
It’s a recipe for disaster. The good news is that there are ways to calm your mind and relax your body, which can help you improve your ejaculatory control. Deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, and mindfulness meditation are all great tools to have in your toolkit. Don’t let stress and anxiety hold you back in bed.
Techniques for improving ejaculatory control
Ejaculatory control is important for both you and your partner’s sexual satisfaction. While it’s normal for guys to have some variability in timing, premature ejaculation can be frustrating and even embarrassing. But don’t worry, there are techniques you can use to improve your control and have better sexual intercourse.
These techniques might involve physical exercises, changes in your behavior, or a combination of both. And the best part is, you can practice them on your own or with a partner. In this section, we’ll go over a variety of techniques that can help you take control in bed and have the satisfying sexual experiences you deserve.
Medications to treat premature ejaculation
Several prescription medications can be used to treat premature ejaculation. and delay orgasm. These include:
- Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs): SSRIs are a type of antidepressant that can be used to treat premature ejaculation. They work by inhibiting the reuptake of serotonin, a neurotransmitter that plays a role in ejaculation and orgasm. SSRIs can help to delay ejaculation and improve sexual satisfaction.
- Tramadol: Tramadol is a prescription pain medication that has been shown to be effective in treating PE It works by inhibiting the reuptake of serotonin and norepinephrine, which can help to delay ejaculation.
- Topical anesthetics: Topical anesthetics, such as lidocaine and prilocaine, can be applied to the penis to reduce sensation and delay ejaculation. These products are available as creams, gels, or sprays.
- Phosphodiesterase-5 inhibitors (PDE5 inhibitors): PDE5 inhibitors, such as sildenafil (Viagra), tadalafil (Cialis), and vardenafil (Levitra), are medications that are commonly used to treat erectile dysfunction. They can also effectively treat premature ejaculation by increasing blood flow to the penis and increasing the time it takes to ejaculate.
It is important to note that these medications may not be suitable for everyone and may have potential side effects. It is important to discuss your treatment options with a healthcare provider to determine the best approach for your individual needs if you experience premature ejaculation.
Using condoms and lubricants to delay ejaculation
Using lubricants and condoms can be effective methods for delaying ejaculation and improving sexual satisfaction for both partners. Wearing a condom can help to reduce sensitivity and delay ejaculation while also providing protection against STIs and unintended pregnancy. It is important to choose a condom that fits properly and is made of a material that does not cause irritation or allergic reactions. Lubricants can also be helpful in reducing friction and increasing pleasure during sexual activity.
Water-based lubricants are a safe choice because they can be used with condoms and do not damage latex. Some men find that using a desensitizing lubricant, which contains a mild anesthetic, can help to delay ejaculation, but it is important to use caution as these products can cause numbness and reduced sensation for both partners. Communication with your partner and experimenting with different techniques is key to finding what works best for you. It is also essential to use condoms and lubricants correctly to maximize their effectiveness.
You could even try thicker condoms. Condoms that are thicker or have a numbing agent can help to reduce sensitivity and delay ejaculation.
The benefits of pelvic floor exercises
if you’re struggling with premature ejaculation, it may be because of weak pelvic floor muscles. One way to do that is through pelvic floor exercises, also known as Kegel exercises. These exercises can help strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, giving you better control over ejaculation and orgasm. But the benefits don’t stop there – pelvic floor exercises can also increase blood flow to your pelvic region, improve muscle tone and control, and boosts confidence. So, if you want to last longer in bed and have better sex overall, it’s time to start doing your Kegels.
Just make sure to consult with a pelvic floor physical therapist to make sure you’re doing them correctly and to determine the right frequency and intensity for you.
Seeking help from a healthcare provider
A healthcare provider can help figure out what’s causing your premature ejaculation and come up with a game plan. Plus, premature ejaculation can sometimes be a sign of an underlying medical issue, like a hormonal imbalance or neurological disorder, and a healthcare provider can help with that.
They can also give you personalized advice and support to help you manage your premature ejaculation and boost your sexual function and satisfaction. And honestly, seeking help from a healthcare provider can just be good for your overall health and well-being. It can improve your physical and mental health and strengthen your relationships. Don’t be shy – it’s worth it.
Don’t be afraid to invest in treating premature ejaculation and pleasure – it’ll pay off in the long run.
Behavioral techniques to take control of premature ejaculation
There are things that men can do to help manage and improve their ejaculatory control if they are experiencing premature ejaculation. Here are some tips for holding back premature ejaculation:
- Practice relaxation techniques: Anxiety and stress can affect sexual function and destroy your sex life. Performance anxiety especially can contribute to premature ejaculation, so learning to relax during sexual activity can be helpful. This might involve deep breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation, or mindfulness meditation.
- Try the “squeeze” technique: This involves squeezing the tip of the penis when you feel like you are about to ejaculate. This can help to interrupt the ejaculatory reflex (apply pressure to the frenulum; the section of your penis where the head meets the shaft) and give you more control over when you ejaculate. The squeeze technique can be done by yourself or with a partner.
- Try “edging”: Edging is an effective way to combat PE. It involves using sexual stimulation, bringing yourself close to the point of ejaculation and then stopping or slowing down until the feeling subsides. You can then start again and repeat the process, eventually allowing yourself to ejaculate. Edging yourself while masturbating can help you last longer in bed.
- Try the “start stop” technique: the stop-start technique involves stopping sexual activity when you feel like you have the urge to ejaculate and then let the sensation pass before starting again.
- Enroll in sex therapy: If premature ejaculation is causing significant distress, it is important to seek help from a sex therapist They can assess the cause of the problem and work through any underlying problems to mentally overcome why premature ejaculation occurs.
By implementing these techniques and seeking help when necessary, men can improve their ejaculatory control, sexual intimacy and enhance their bedroom experiences.
