If you are wondering why premature ejaculation is bad, let’s take a moment to think…

Picture this: you and your partner are getting it on, and things are feeling pretty intense. As things get hot and heavy…before you know it… you’re finishing up, and it’s all over.

Doesn’t that suck? How would that make you two feel? 

I bet, unsatisfied, frustrated, and perhaps ashamed.

Look, premature ejaculation can really put a damper on things in the bedroom and can even affect your relationship and self-esteem. In this article, we’ll discuss why premature ejaculation is a problem and what you can do about it.

The Negative Repercussions of Premature Ejaculation

A man suffering symptoms of premature ejaculation can have serious negative repercussions on his life and relationships. Here are some of the ways in which premature ejaculation can be problematic:

The effects of premature ejaculation on the individual

Premature ejaculation is a common problem that can really mess things up in the bedroom. It’s not just a matter of lasting longer – it can affect your self-esteem, stress levels, and even your relationships.

Here’s how premature ejaculation can be a major pain in the ass:

The emotional and psychological impact

Yes, if every sexual encounter has you finishing in 2 minutes or less, it’ll impact your confidence. Premature ejaculation can leave you feeling like a failure – shame, embarrassment, and low self-esteem are all common responses. And let’s not forget the added stress and anxiety that can come with it. These emotional responses can only worsen the problem, creating a vicious cycle. Performance anxiety after experiencing sexual problems is pretty common.

Talk to a mental health professional if you are dealing with any of these problems.

Reduced sexual pleasure

Premature ejaculation can seriously impact your sexual pleasure – and your partner’s. It can lead to frustration and disappointment, ruining the enjoyment of sexual activity for everyone.

Health problems

Premature ejaculation can signify underlying health issues, like hormonal imbalances or nerve damage. It’s important to see a healthcare professional to address any potential underlying causes and address any related health concerns.

The impact of premature ejaculation on relationships

Premature ejaculation can cause problems in your relationships and intimacy. Communication issues, tension, and conflict can all be a result. It can ultimately affect the overall satisfaction and quality of your relationship.

Here’s how it can affect your intimacy and satisfaction:

Communication problems

Premature ejaculation can be a tough topic to bring up, which can lead to a lack of communication between partners. This can create tension and misunderstandings and may lead to avoiding sexual activity altogether (no conclusive research for abstinence as a cure for premature ejaculation)

Tension and conflict

Premature ejaculation can cause tension and conflict in a relationship, as one partner may feel frustrated or dissatisfied while the other may feel inadequate or blamed. One partner will start holding grudges, and it could get ugly really fast.

Reduced intimacy and satisfaction

Premature ejaculation can seriously impact the overall enjoyment of sexual activity and can lead to a lack of intimacy and satisfaction in the relationship. The negative effects of premature ejaculation on communication, intimacy, and satisfaction can ultimately affect the overall quality of the relationship.

It’s important to remember that these effects can vary from relationship to relationship, and it is possible for couples to work through these issues with the help of a therapist or other healthcare professional. Seeking treatment for premature ejaculation can be a crucial step in improving the health and satisfaction of a relationship.

Types Of Premature Ejaculation

There are two types of premature ejaculation: primary premature ejaculation and secondary premature ejaculation.

Primary premature ejaculation or lifelong premature ejaculation is when a man has always had the problem and has never been able to control his ejaculation.

Secondary premature ejaculation or acquired premature ejaculation is when a man develops the problem later in life and has previously been able to control his ejaculation. So, acquired premature ejaculation develops after having previous sexual experiences without zero problems with ejaculation (acquired PE may also go away). Psychological factors, such as stress, depression, relationship problems, or medication side effects can cause it.

It’s also worth noting that there is a difference between “premature ejaculation” and “rapid ejaculation” or “shortened ejaculation latency” where the time to ejaculation is short, but premature ejaculation symptoms not necessarily causing distress to the person.

Treatment options for premature ejaculation

It is important to see a doctor or healthcare professional to properly diagnose and discuss treatment options for premature ejaculation. Here are some possible treatment options that may be recommended to delay ejaculation:


Several medications have been proven to be effective to treat premature ejaculation, such as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) and topical anesthetics or delay sprays.


Premature ejaculation is a real problem that can screw with your mind, your sex life and your relationships. It’s not just a physical issue, it’s a mental and emotional one too. That’s why behavioral therapies are wonderful.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a great option to address the psychological and emotional aspects of premature ejaculation. It can help you identify and change negative thought patterns and behaviors that might contribute to the problem.

And if you’re in a relationship, it’s not just about you, it’s about both of you. It can help couples to understand and work through any relationship issues that may be impacting their sexual experiences and help prevent premature ejaculation. Even working with a sex therapist could do wonders to solve complications premature ejaculation brings on.

Self-help techniques

Several self-help techniques can be effective in treating premature ejaculation, such as the squeeze technique and the start-stop technique. These techniques involve interrupting sexual activity before ejaculation and then resuming after the urge to ejaculate has subsided.

Lifestyle changes

Making certain lifestyle changes, such as reducing alcohol consumption and quitting smoking, may also help delay ejaculation and your overall sexual performance.

It is important to note that treatment for premature ejaculation may involve a combination of these approaches, and what works for one person may not work for another. It is important to work with a healthcare professional to determine the most appropriate treatment plan.

Time To Get Rid Of Premature Ejaculation!

Premature ejaculation is not something to take lightly. It can have a significant impact on an individual’s self-esteem and can also affect their relationships. If you’re experiencing this issue, it’s important to talk to a healthcare professional about the treatment options available to you. Don’t let it hold you back any longer, take the first step to improve your sexual experience.

The bottom line is, early ejaculation can be a real problem, but there are ways to address it and get back to enjoying your sex life.

Jocelyn Padilla, Certified Sex Educator

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